“People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.” - Unknown
Last week, my friend Joel reached out to me. It was so great reconnecting with him as it has been years. The year was 2013 and I was on a personal health journey. I had been attending Egan’s free Beach Bootcamp for a few weeks and finally decided to make the commitment to attend their classes in Manoa (at 5AM)! At class, the coaches encourage everyone to find an accountability buddy and I remember feeling so anxious as everyone seemed to know everyone! Then, Joel came up to me and asked me to be his accountability partner. I did not think much of it when we exchanged numbers. However the next day, he brought some kind of healthy snack for me and was really good about following up with me daily to talk about health, nutrition. He was an amazing accountability partner and went above and beyond. Joel was on his own personal journey as well. He was working on improving himself physically and mentally and together we formed a great friendship.
As some time passed, life happens. He found a girlfriend who eventually became his wife and we lost touch. I remember being super bummed about it and at the time, it felt like a break up. That part of me was gone as I used to speak to this person daily and see him every morning. Time went on and seeing him happy made me happy. I would get to see him from time-to-time at bootcamp but it was not the same as I knew he had other obligations and got busy. I know I could have reached out too but I feel that sometimes, we need to let people have their space.
Then, out of the blue I got a text from Joel! We wrote back and forth and made plans to meet up. It felt as if no time had passed. We caught up and talked about everything from yoga, food, travel and more. While many things in his life has changed, he as a person has stayed the same. He still loves helping people, is creative, loves nature, and is an amazing father to three fabulous kids. I feel so lucky to have this person in my life.